Do you ever find yourself making all the right decision-making moves and still feeling confused and indecisive? You know: listing the pros and cons, asking friends and family to help you think it through, checking with your gut to see what it tells you to do?
Is it hard for you to stick to your decision after you’ve made it?
If so, you’re in good company. Decision-making can be very hard. It was something I used to really struggle with. That is, until I got a great lesson in making decisions from an unexpected source – my body.
A couple of years ago I led a teleseminar series to clear beliefs and fears related to our bodies – including our fears, the messages we got from society about how we should look, etc.
At the time, I was struggling to maintain a consistent exercise routine. I’d start exercising but after a week or two I’d get too busy or have other things to do.
I wasn’t sticking with my decision.
During the series, I realized that my reason for exercising was to change my body, to lose weight. I was trying to move AWAY from how I was then. And it wasn’t working because I was resisting who I was at that moment.
As I cleared away my old ways of thinking and relating to my body, I uncovered the truth that had been there all along – I love my body. I’m so grateful to it and for it. Just as it is. Being able to look in the mirror and love what I saw felt so freeing.
Once I completely accepted my body and gave up any agenda to change it, I realized I wanted to experience my body as being strong. I’d never thought of myself as athletic or physically strong, and I wanted to see what that was like.
All of a sudden, exercise was a way of moving toward something I wanted. It was also a way of loving and honoring my body. For once, it felt like I was bringing my body with me rather than trying to get away from it.
It made all the difference in the world.
What I learned from that experience has served me incredibly well in making decisions. I used it this week when I felt like I was struggling with a choice I needed to make. So here it is in an easy 1-2-3 format for you.
ReFuture Your Decisions in 3 Easy Steps
Once you’ve outlined your options:
- Ask yourself, “What are my fears, beliefs and feelings about Option A?” You might even want to write them down. Repeat for each option.
- Look at the lists. Be open to insights and surprises. Breathe and lovingly release it all.
- Ask yourself, “What do I want to move toward?” What calls to you? What makes your heart sing? Find what you want to say YES to! Move toward THAT!
Your fears, beliefs and feelings cloud your perception and judgment. You may not even know what you want to head towards until you’re able to let go of the clutter.
My special area of expertise is in helping identify and release what’s in your way, including disconnecting from the hurts and limits of the past. You can then confidently move into your future – the Refutured You – based on what you’re moving towards, rather than on things you’re trying to escape.
It’s so much easier to stick to something when you see what you’re going to get by doing so. That’s the beauty in deciding what you’re moving toward. There’s a reward built in. You see yourself getting closer to what you want and that gives you momentum to keep going into a future that’s based on what you want.
Still no decision?
If you still can’t make a final decision, it may simply not be time for it yet. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself some space. Put your lists away and just let it be. You can come back to it later.